I read an article recently that said many marriage counselors refer to this post holiday time of year as divorce season. It seems many in troubled marriages will wait until Christmas celebrations are over to make a decision to divorce final. I also imagine being forced to be around all the relatives for Christmas may be the last straw for decision to divorce in some cases. If you are presently in a marriage in crisis, it can be a frightening situation especially after 50 when you feel your future alternatives are limited.
If you are in a really bad situation that has no hope for improvement, then divorce may be the best option you have. In that case I wish you well and hope you find a happy life when you get the divorce behind you.
On the other hand if you hope there is a way to save your marriage even after an affair, I want you to know that it can be done. It will not be easy but if you take the necessary steps and work together it is possible. You may be surprised at how serious some situations have been that were resolved with mutual effort to rebuild the marriage.
I just recently learned of Maurita Corcoran who had been married for 13 years when she received a call from her husband stating that he had committed himself for counseling for sex addiction. She has written a nationally acclaimed book titled ” A House Interrupted” about their experience to save her marriage. She is still very active in helping other women in troubled marriages and has just celebrated her 28th wedding anniversary. You may find her book very helpful and inspirational if you are in a similar situation or just having problems in your marriage.
Although this book gives you information on what she went through and how she was able to recover, it probably will not be all the help you will need to survive an affair and save your marriage.
For there to be a true bond rebuilt between you and your husband, you need to resolve the causes of your problems so they don’t repeat in the future. You will both have to cooperate in this process and should either have the guidance of an expert counselor or a good guide drawn up by an expert counselor. If you just make up without addressing the causes of the problems that have so badly damaged your relationship, you will most likely just be postponing the end of your marriage.
It will take patience and tolerance from both you and your husband to preserve your relationship. At points of disagreement you may find it necessary to have help from an impartial counselor to reach an agreeable resolution. Even if you feel you can solve your problems between the two of you, you should at least have a comprehensive guide by someone very experienced in marriage counseling to ensure you are really making meaningful progress and not just fooling yourselves.
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Best regards,
Charles Moore
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